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YOUR CARLSBAD DIVORCE LAWYER AND MEDIATOR SAYS: DON’T LET YOUR DIVORCE DEFINE WHO YOU ARE!

When clients come in for legal services, I often ask them where they are emotionally.  Some are calm and business-like.  Some are smiling and seem at peace with the marriage breakup. But most are overwhelmed, afraid, confused, furious or some combination of the above.  I’d like to ask you, where are you today?  If the …

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“WTF” AND OTHER RESPONSES TO OUR FACEBOOK ADVERTISING

This is Thomas Ferreira, your Carlsbad Divorce lawyer and mediator in Carlsbad, California.  Tammy (my wife and co-mediator) and I do a monthly workshop to provide an overview of the divorce process and also to help folks find the meaning in the pain they’re going through. We offer the workshop completely free, as a service …

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ACCEPT WHAT YOU CAN’T CHANGE, CHANGE WHAT YOU CAN: WISDOM FROM A CARLSBAD DIVORCE(D) LAWYER

The divorce process sucks no matter how you slice it.  You’re thrust into a system you likely didn’t want to be in, where decisions are made by others and often are difficult or impossible to control.  The one person you thought you could count on forever is now your adversary.  The attorneys see your case …

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SECRET NUMBER TWO FOR AN AMICABLE DIVORCE: HAVE THE CONVERSATION

FIRST OF FOUR SECRETS TO AN AMICABLE DIVORCE: Don’t Be a Hater.

Carlsbad Divorce Lawyer and Divorce Mediator discusses How to Have an Amicable Divorce – Don’t be a Hater Have you ever wished that your divorce case could be amicable?  That you could cut through the BS and the fighting and just get your ex to accept reason? The difficulties are structural, that is, built into …

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THE BEST OF ALL DIVORCE/CHILD CUSTODY WORLDS: SELF-REPRESENTATION WITH MEDIATION.

Carlsbad Divorce Lawyer and Divorce Mediator discusses How to Represent Yourself During Divorce and Using Mediation This is Thomas Ferreira, your family law mediator and lawyer in Carlsbad California.  Today I want to talk about how to involve a family law expert in your case while staying self-represented. Are you facing child custody, divorce or …

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THRIVING DURING AND AFTER DIVORCE: KNOW WHAT YOU OWN AND OWE

Carlsbad Divorce Lawyer and Divorce Mediator on How to Divide Community Property Here’s a question:  Do you know you and your spouse’s net worth?  How close are you to retirement?  Do you have a dream job or career that you’d love to transition into, perhaps something that your spouse has been opposed to?  Do you …

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THRIVING DURING AND AFTER DIVORCE: PLANNING FOR SUPPORT CALCULATIONS

I’m Thomas Ferreira, your divorce and child custody mediator and lawyer in Carlsbad, serving North San Diego County and Riverside County with family legal services. Have you ever been laying awake at night wondering just how much support you’re going to have to pay?  Or maybe you’re cause of insomnia is how much support you …

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