Tag Archive: divorce lawyer

Feb 28

YOUR FIRST STEP TO FINANCIAL SECURITY AFTER DIVORCE—COMING TO TERMS WITH YOUR FEELINGS

Ten years ago last November my then wife (now my ex-wife) announced her desire for a divorce.  Today I am self-employed and happy, remarried, spending lots of time with the kids, and getting ready for a basketball game at their school (I am an assistant JV coach!).  I did it and you can, too. Last …

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Feb 24

CARLSBAD DIVORCE LAWYER AND MEDIATOR SPILLS THE BEANS—12 WAYS YOU ACHIEVE FINANCIAL SECURITY WITHOUT A LAWYER!

Thomas Ferreira here, your divorce attorney and mediator in Carlsbad, California.  It’s been nearly 10 years since my divorce was final.  I owned a home and had two young children of the marriage.  My current wife of about 6 years (also my office manager and financial analyst and general partner in crime) got her divorce …

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Feb 07

The Value of Intangibles in Divorce Negotiation

Some of you are in the throes of nasty divorce or child custody litigation, and some of you are headed there.  Here’s something that may seem counterintuitive at first, but I’ll make sure and explain what I mean.  Here goes: Sometimes it’s better to settle for less.  You may be thinking, wow, did a lawyer …

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Feb 02

CAN THE COURT REALLY HELP? SAGE WISDOM FROM YOUR CARLSBAD DIVORCE LAWYER AND MEDIATOR

I see it all the time—someone goes into family court for a solution to their problem, and finds that everything is worse after the hearing than it was before. If you need proof, go and watch any Request for Order calendar at your local California Superior Court’s family division. This is not to disparage our …

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Jan 18

TWO STEPS TO GET ANY SPOUSE INTO DIVORCE MEDIATION (NO MATTER HOW RELUCTANT THEY ARE)

If you are a regular reader of this blog you already know the value of divorce mediation, as compared to plunking down a big retainer for a divorce lawyer, trying to DIY it or burying your head in the sand. “But,” you say, “you’ll never get him in to mediation.”  Or, “there’s no way I …

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Mar 24

IS ALIMONY REALLY FAIR IN A NO FAULT DIVORCE?

While researching cases for premarital agreement, I came across a case in 2000 where the California Supreme Court was asked to rule on whether couples to be married could waive spousal support (alimony) in a premarital (or prenuptial) agreement.  The case is Marriage of Pendleton which you can find by going to the state’s case …

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Mar 19

THAT’S NOT FAIR

It’s what I call the divorcee’s lament.  I hear it in court, mostly from self-represented litigants.  I hear it when I consult with clients.  I hear it in mediation.  Say it with me:  “that’s not fair!” No, what’s happening in divorce court is not fair, and most people leave family court feeling like they’ve been …

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Oct 28

CHILD CUSTODY SECRET NUMBER THREE: MOTIVATE YOUR CHILD TO SPEND TIME WITH YOU

Here is the fourth and final installment of The Best Free Advice on Child Custody Ever, and I’ve saved the best for last.  I give this advice not so much as a child custody lawyer, but as a parent.  And here’s the secret: Your children will want to spend time with you when they have …

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Oct 01

CHILD CUSTODY SECRET NUMBER 2: THE PARENT-CHILD RELATIONSHIP IS KING

This is Thomas Ferreira, your Carlsbad Child Custody, visitation and divorce attorney, with the third installment on the best strategy to get more parenting time.  When the court is involved, it is important to understand the spirit and the letter of child custody law.  California family recognizes this in Family Code section 3040: (a) Custody …

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