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Tag: California Divorce

MEDIATION: THE BEST WAY TO AVOID TOTAL WAR IN YOUR DIVORCE

Thomas Ferreira here, your family law lawyer and mediator in Carlsbad, California. I know it will sound weird to many of you, but I just love reading history books.  It’s always good for divorced and divorcing people to have hobbies, and being an armchair historian is one of mine.  I find the human condition fascinating, …

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DIVORCE LAWYERS AND WIN-LOSE THINKING

We have the late Stephen Covey to thank for the wonderful concept of “win-win thinking.”  Win-win seeks to find solutions that serve as many interests as possible.  Win-lose thinking sees the world as populated by 2 types of people:  winners and losers.  According to a win-lose paradigm, there is a finite amount of value, stuff …

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SELECT YOUR DIVORCE LAWYER ACCORDING TO YOUR VALUES

If you or a loved one are facing divorce in California, deciding what help you need can be daunting.  There are so many lawyers out there.  Whom should you pick?  How about the one who promises to take the gloves off?  How about the pictures of gavels and cherry-paneled law libraries?  The one that charges …

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WHAT EVERY WOMAN WANTS, WHAT EVERY MAN WANTS—A NORTH SAN DIEGO COUNTY DIVORCE LAWYER’S PERSPECTIVE

Thomas Ferreira, North San Diego County divorce lawyer and mediator here.  As I said in my last post, this job has given me an insider’s view into the cause of marital breakdown.  And marital breakdown is a heartache whether or not there are are children involved. Have you ever had arguments with your husband or …

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Exposing the Real Cost of Divorce—A North San Diego Divorce Lawyer’s View

My mother once asked me, “Thomas, do you know why divorces are so expensive?”   I said, “no.”  “Because they’re worth it!” she replied. I was 4 years old when she got her first divorce and 20 when she got her second.  I can say with confidence that mom’s divorces have not been worth it, at …

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