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Category: divorced fathers

CARLSBAD DIVORCE LAWYER AND MEDIATOR REVEALS A SECRET ABOUT YOUR CHILD CUSTODY CASE

Here’s a little secret about California’s child custody laws: Like other “family” laws, child custody and visitation laws are not designed to be fair to parents. Instead, the basic principle of child custody laws is known as the “best interest of the child’ standard. When making decisions on your child custody matter, your family law …

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Unbundled Services Give You Professional Legal Help Without the Huge Attorney Price Tag

 This is Thomas Ferreira, your divorce and child custody lawyer and mediator in Carlsbad, California. I just got back from back-to-school orientation for my boys. I took this task on even though my ex-wife has the kids this week, applying my core strategy of being nice and building trust. Now I’d like to move …

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YOUR BEST WEAPON IN CHILD CUSTODY DISPUTES: KINDNESS.

Thomas Ferreira, your child custody and divorce lawyer in Carlsbad California here.  Last week I said I was going to go over some finer points about calculating child support.  I think I’m going to put that off until next week so I can share what could be the most powerful tool in your toolbox for …

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SELF-REPRESENTED DADS IN FAMILY COURT: KNOW HOW THE GAME IS PLAYED

When I’m representing parents in child custody court, it’s always entertaining to watch the “pro pers” while I’m waiting for my case to be called. Day before yesterday was one of the best, illustrating the well-worn motto that the person who represents himself in court has a fool for a client (and for a lawyer, …

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GETTING MORE TIME WITH YOUR CHILDREN: MORE TIPS FROM A DIVORC(ED) LAWYER AND FATHER

In this post, I’ll be giving you more ideas on how to lay the groundwork for success when you’re before Family Court Services, custody evaluators and even judges. Many of these decision makers got into this work because they care about children, and most want to see the type of parenting that their scientific studies and clinical training have told them is “good.”

Non-Custodial Fathers You Are Important

Many readers will be surprised to learn that throughout much of American history, the law presumed that children of divorce would be placed with fathers, not mothers. This presumption lasted through the late 19th century, with the advent of the industrial revolution. After that, society and the courts increasingly saw fathers as the source of …

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GETTING MORE TIME WITH YOUR CHILDREN: 5 TIPS FROM A DIVORC(ED) LAWYER AND FATHER

You may remember Bill Clinton’s slogan when he ran against the elder George Bush in 1992, “Its the economy, stupid.” In custody disputes, substitute the words “parent-child relationship,” and you have an excellent formula for influencing court mediators and judges, and getting more time with your children. Always remember that it’s a marathon, not a sprint, and the seeds you sow in relationship now are likely to bear fruit years later in the form of healthier, closer family relationships, and happier children.