Category Archive: Child Custody and Visitation

Sep 19

Self-Represented Divorce Strategy number 6: Unbundled Services Give You Professional Help Without the Huge Attorney Price Tag

This is Thomas Ferreira, your divorce and child custody lawyer and mediator in Carlsbad, California. I just got back from back-to-school orientation for my boys. I took this task on even though my ex-wife has the kids this week, applying my core strategy of being nice and building trust. Now I’d like to move on …

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Aug 30

ACCEPT WHAT YOU CAN’T CHANGE, CHANGE WHAT YOU CAN: WISDOM FROM A CARLSBAD DIVORCE(D) LAWYER

The divorce process sucks no matter how you slice it.  You’re thrust into a system you likely didn’t want to be in, where decisions are made by others and often are difficult or impossible to control.  The one person you thought you could count on forever is now your adversary.  The attorneys see your case …

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Aug 10

YOUR BEST WEAPON IN CHILD CUSTODY DISPUTES: KINDNESS.

Thomas Ferreira, your child custody and divorce lawyer in Carlsbad California here.  Last week I said I was going to go over some finer points about calculating child support.  I think I’m going to put that off until next week so I can share what could be the most powerful tool in your toolbox for …

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Jun 22

CHILD CUSTODY SECRET: KNOWING WHEN THE COURT CAN HELP YOU, AND WHEN IT CAN’T.

Thomas Ferreira here, divorce and child custody mediator in North San Diego County.  I want to let you in on a strategic secret that can save you thousands in lawyer costs and untold grief. I have a question for those of you who are divorcing, have a paternity case pending or a support case pending: …

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May 03

SECRET NUMBER FOUR FOR AN AMICABLE DIVORCE: Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff.

SECRET NUMBER FOUR FOR AN AMICABLE DIVORCE: Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff Carlsbad Divorce Lawyer and Divorce Mediator discusses How to Have an Amicable Divorce – Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff And it’s all small stuff, right?  Not necessarily.  In my own situation, with sons ages 11 and 12, my ex and I are currently …

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Aug 28

ON THAT MIDNIGHT TRAIN TO GEORGIA—WITH YOUR CHILDREN.

Child custody move-away cases are nerve-jangling, even for us child custody lawyers and mediators who deal with them day in and day out.  I have been on a 2-week roll involving several “move-away” cases.  These are cases where a custodial parent has decided to move with the child to another county, or even another state.  …

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Oct 28

CHILD CUSTODY SECRET NUMBER THREE: MOTIVATE YOUR CHILD TO SPEND TIME WITH YOU

Here is the fourth and final installment of The Best Free Advice on Child Custody Ever, and I’ve saved the best for last.  I give this advice not so much as a child custody lawyer, but as a parent.  And here’s the secret: Your children will want to spend time with you when they have …

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Oct 01

CHILD CUSTODY SECRET NUMBER 2: THE PARENT-CHILD RELATIONSHIP IS KING

This is Thomas Ferreira, your Carlsbad Child Custody, visitation and divorce attorney, with the third installment on the best strategy to get more parenting time.  When the court is involved, it is important to understand the spirit and the letter of child custody law.  California family recognizes this in Family Code section 3040: (a) Custody …

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Sep 15

CHILD CUSTODY SECRET NUMBER ONE: HOW TO LAY THE GROUNDWORK BEFORE REQUESTING COURT ORDERS

As promised, here is the second installment on my series, Best Child Custody Advice Ever.  This advice is mostly for non-custodial parents who want more time with the children.  I don’t generally consider myself a “father’s rights” attorney—my philosophy is that each co-parent after a divorce or separation brings something unique and important to the …

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Sep 09

THE BEST FREE ADVICE ON CHILD CUSTODY EVER—3 WAYS TO TIP THE SCALES IN YOUR FAVOR

Hello again from Thomas Ferreira, your child custody, family, divorce and support mediator and lawyer serving California cities of Carlsbad, San Marcos, Vista, Oceanside, San Diego and surrounding areas. I want to address a specific situation where you get child custody and visitation orders that are  restrictive of your visitation, don’t give you enough time …

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Oct 22

DO GRANDPARENTS HAVE THE RIGHT TO CUSTODY OR VISITATION OF CHILDREN?

Thomas Ferreira here, your child custody, family and property attorney and mediator serving Carlsbad, Vista, Oceanside, San Marcos and other North County cities.  I wanted to talk to you today about grandparent rights, as these can be problematic for the parents, and for the children. Here’s the thing:  parental rights of natural (and adoptive) parents …

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Oct 13

I’M BEING ABUSED. CAN’T I JUST TAKE THE KIDS AND HIDE? ANSWER FROM A CARLSBAD DIVORCE AND CUSTODY ATTORNEY

What do you do if you’re the victim of spousal abuse, but you’re afraid that taking the children to an undisclosed location will run afoul of the California child abduction statute? As a child custody and visitation attorney and mediator, and also as a lawyer who deals with claims of domestic violence, I often get …

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Nov 05

Making Good Decisions When You Divorce

Welcome to the inaugural post for the Law Offices of Thomas D. Ferreira blog.  Come here to find useful information and tips on navigating the California family law courts, getting more time with your children, reducing conflict in your co-parenting relationship and saving money through mediation and self-representation.  My hope is that this page will …

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